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          Yes there are such references in Manu Smriti and several other scriptures.



          From Manu Smriti:




          3.8. Let him not marry a maiden (with) reddish (hair), nor one who has a redundant member, nor one who is sickly, nor one either with no hair
          (on the body) or too much, nor one who is garrulous or has red (eyes),



          3.9. Nor one named after a constellation, a tree, or a river, nor one bearing the name of a low caste, or of a mountain, nor one named after
          a bird, a snake, or a slave, nor one whose name inspires terror.



          3.10. Let him wed a female free from bodily defects, who has an agreeable name, the (graceful) gait of a Hamsa or of an elephant, a
          moderate (quantity of) hair on the body and on the head, small teeth,
          and soft limbs.




          The above verses tell us which are the maidens whom one should marry and also which are the ones who are not that much recommended for the purpose.



          The following verse also gives us few more such "negative" qualities of the bride.




          3.11. But a prudent man should not marry (a maiden) who has no brother, nor one whose father is not known, through fear lest (in the
          former case she be made) an appointed daughter (and in the latter)
          lest (he should commit) sin.







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            In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:25






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            I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:29






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            But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:33






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            I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:36






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            We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:38




















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          Yes there are such references in Manu Smriti and several other scriptures.



          From Manu Smriti:




          3.8. Let him not marry a maiden (with) reddish (hair), nor one who has a redundant member, nor one who is sickly, nor one either with no hair
          (on the body) or too much, nor one who is garrulous or has red (eyes),



          3.9. Nor one named after a constellation, a tree, or a river, nor one bearing the name of a low caste, or of a mountain, nor one named after
          a bird, a snake, or a slave, nor one whose name inspires terror.



          3.10. Let him wed a female free from bodily defects, who has an agreeable name, the (graceful) gait of a Hamsa or of an elephant, a
          moderate (quantity of) hair on the body and on the head, small teeth,
          and soft limbs.




          The above verses tell us which are the maidens whom one should marry and also which are the ones who are not that much recommended for the purpose.



          The following verse also gives us few more such "negative" qualities of the bride.




          3.11. But a prudent man should not marry (a maiden) who has no brother, nor one whose father is not known, through fear lest (in the
          former case she be made) an appointed daughter (and in the latter)
          lest (he should commit) sin.







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            In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:25






          • 2




            I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:29






          • 3




            But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:33






          • 1




            I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:36






          • 4




            We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:38

















          up vote
          7
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          Yes there are such references in Manu Smriti and several other scriptures.



          From Manu Smriti:




          3.8. Let him not marry a maiden (with) reddish (hair), nor one who has a redundant member, nor one who is sickly, nor one either with no hair
          (on the body) or too much, nor one who is garrulous or has red (eyes),



          3.9. Nor one named after a constellation, a tree, or a river, nor one bearing the name of a low caste, or of a mountain, nor one named after
          a bird, a snake, or a slave, nor one whose name inspires terror.



          3.10. Let him wed a female free from bodily defects, who has an agreeable name, the (graceful) gait of a Hamsa or of an elephant, a
          moderate (quantity of) hair on the body and on the head, small teeth,
          and soft limbs.




          The above verses tell us which are the maidens whom one should marry and also which are the ones who are not that much recommended for the purpose.



          The following verse also gives us few more such "negative" qualities of the bride.




          3.11. But a prudent man should not marry (a maiden) who has no brother, nor one whose father is not known, through fear lest (in the
          former case she be made) an appointed daughter (and in the latter)
          lest (he should commit) sin.







          share|improve this answer



















          • 2




            In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:25






          • 2




            I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:29






          • 3




            But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:33






          • 1




            I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:36






          • 4




            We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:38















          up vote
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          up vote
          7
          down vote









          Yes there are such references in Manu Smriti and several other scriptures.



          From Manu Smriti:




          3.8. Let him not marry a maiden (with) reddish (hair), nor one who has a redundant member, nor one who is sickly, nor one either with no hair
          (on the body) or too much, nor one who is garrulous or has red (eyes),



          3.9. Nor one named after a constellation, a tree, or a river, nor one bearing the name of a low caste, or of a mountain, nor one named after
          a bird, a snake, or a slave, nor one whose name inspires terror.



          3.10. Let him wed a female free from bodily defects, who has an agreeable name, the (graceful) gait of a Hamsa or of an elephant, a
          moderate (quantity of) hair on the body and on the head, small teeth,
          and soft limbs.




          The above verses tell us which are the maidens whom one should marry and also which are the ones who are not that much recommended for the purpose.



          The following verse also gives us few more such "negative" qualities of the bride.




          3.11. But a prudent man should not marry (a maiden) who has no brother, nor one whose father is not known, through fear lest (in the
          former case she be made) an appointed daughter (and in the latter)
          lest (he should commit) sin.







          share|improve this answer














          Yes there are such references in Manu Smriti and several other scriptures.



          From Manu Smriti:




          3.8. Let him not marry a maiden (with) reddish (hair), nor one who has a redundant member, nor one who is sickly, nor one either with no hair
          (on the body) or too much, nor one who is garrulous or has red (eyes),



          3.9. Nor one named after a constellation, a tree, or a river, nor one bearing the name of a low caste, or of a mountain, nor one named after
          a bird, a snake, or a slave, nor one whose name inspires terror.



          3.10. Let him wed a female free from bodily defects, who has an agreeable name, the (graceful) gait of a Hamsa or of an elephant, a
          moderate (quantity of) hair on the body and on the head, small teeth,
          and soft limbs.




          The above verses tell us which are the maidens whom one should marry and also which are the ones who are not that much recommended for the purpose.



          The following verse also gives us few more such "negative" qualities of the bride.




          3.11. But a prudent man should not marry (a maiden) who has no brother, nor one whose father is not known, through fear lest (in the
          former case she be made) an appointed daughter (and in the latter)
          lest (he should commit) sin.








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            In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:25






          • 2




            I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:29






          • 3




            But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:33






          • 1




            I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:36






          • 4




            We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:38
















          • 2




            In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:25






          • 2




            I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:29






          • 3




            But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:33






          • 1




            I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
            – Persistence
            Nov 24 at 9:36






          • 4




            We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
            – Rickross
            Nov 24 at 9:38










          2




          2




          In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:25




          In Hinduism diseases, physical deformities are taken as marks of sins committed in the previous births. But that does not mean such people are to be treated badly and they are not. Hinduism is extremely tolerant. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:25




          2




          2




          I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
          – Persistence
          Nov 24 at 9:29




          I would argue that suggesting someone should not be married as a result of something beyond their control counts as treating them badly... Oh well, this isn't the forum for moral debate, I just felt the need to make my feelings known.
          – Persistence
          Nov 24 at 9:29




          3




          3




          But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:33




          But the deeds that they did in the previous births were certainly under their control and the disease etc in the current birth is the outcome. You may be knowing tht the fundamental belief of Hinduism is the rebirth and Karma doctrine. So, all of that shd be understood as well while reading verses like the ones given in the answer. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:33




          1




          1




          I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
          – Persistence
          Nov 24 at 9:36




          I do understand that. However, just because you believe it doesn't make it true.
          – Persistence
          Nov 24 at 9:36




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          We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:38






          We don't discuss what is true and what is not (from the universal or absolute perspective ) here.. We simply discuss what is the view of Hinduism on the topic being asked in the question. Here Hindu scriptures are taken as the authority. @Persistence
          – Rickross
          Nov 24 at 9:38





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