Word or phrase used to describe someone who controls someone else through possessions or financial means
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Not sure if such a phrase or word to describe a person/actions actually exists. Have been using “to lord something over someone,” but this might not be the correct usage.
ex1: If someone pays for a vacation and subtly reminds you that they paid for everything when a choice of activities becomes a split decision, especially when the holiday has already commenced and there is no return/exit. This renders the original gift of paying more of a burden than an actual no strings attached gift.
ex2: person receives a gift of a new device from children and gives the older model to spouse, but when spouse tries to exercise control over older device the person reminds them that it is/was theirs and should still have power over it.
perhaps a guilt trip, but especially with monetary/possessions used to influence and hold something over someone.
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Not sure if such a phrase or word to describe a person/actions actually exists. Have been using “to lord something over someone,” but this might not be the correct usage.
ex1: If someone pays for a vacation and subtly reminds you that they paid for everything when a choice of activities becomes a split decision, especially when the holiday has already commenced and there is no return/exit. This renders the original gift of paying more of a burden than an actual no strings attached gift.
ex2: person receives a gift of a new device from children and gives the older model to spouse, but when spouse tries to exercise control over older device the person reminds them that it is/was theirs and should still have power over it.
perhaps a guilt trip, but especially with monetary/possessions used to influence and hold something over someone.
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This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58
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Not sure if such a phrase or word to describe a person/actions actually exists. Have been using “to lord something over someone,” but this might not be the correct usage.
ex1: If someone pays for a vacation and subtly reminds you that they paid for everything when a choice of activities becomes a split decision, especially when the holiday has already commenced and there is no return/exit. This renders the original gift of paying more of a burden than an actual no strings attached gift.
ex2: person receives a gift of a new device from children and gives the older model to spouse, but when spouse tries to exercise control over older device the person reminds them that it is/was theirs and should still have power over it.
perhaps a guilt trip, but especially with monetary/possessions used to influence and hold something over someone.
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asked Nov 11 at 2:06
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Not sure if such a phrase or word to describe a person/actions actually exists. Have been using “to lord something over someone,” but this might not be the correct usage.
ex1: If someone pays for a vacation and subtly reminds you that they paid for everything when a choice of activities becomes a split decision, especially when the holiday has already commenced and there is no return/exit. This renders the original gift of paying more of a burden than an actual no strings attached gift.
ex2: person receives a gift of a new device from children and gives the older model to spouse, but when spouse tries to exercise control over older device the person reminds them that it is/was theirs and should still have power over it.
perhaps a guilt trip, but especially with monetary/possessions used to influence and hold something over someone.
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word-choice word-usage phrase-requests phrasal-adjectives
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This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58
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This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58
This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58
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Here, one is trying to extract their pound of flesh from the other person.
TFD(idioms):
your pound of flesh
If someone demands their pound of flesh, they insist on getting
something they have a right to, even though they might not need it
and it will cause problems for the people they are getting it from.
She has appeared on breakfast television to offer support (in exchange
for heaven knows what pound of flesh from her husband).
Note: This expression comes from Shakespeare's play `The Merchant of
Venice' (Act 4, Scene 1). Shylock is owed money by Antonio, and
attempts to carry out an agreement which allows him to cut off a pound
of Antonio's flesh.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers
2012
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Although it doesn't describe precisely the circumstances you mention, I would suggest the other was acting in a patronising way. (US patronizing)
To assume an air of superiority towards; to treat or speak about (a
person, etc.) condescendingly, esp. with apparent indulgence or
kindness. (OED sense 6a)
It is normally a term which applies to non-monetary over-lordship, where unwelcome "advice" is given, or superior or condescending attitudes expressed
To assume or adopt an air of superiority; to act or speak condescendingly. (OED sense 6b)
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Here, one is trying to extract their pound of flesh from the other person.
TFD(idioms):
your pound of flesh
If someone demands their pound of flesh, they insist on getting
something they have a right to, even though they might not need it
and it will cause problems for the people they are getting it from.
She has appeared on breakfast television to offer support (in exchange
for heaven knows what pound of flesh from her husband).
Note: This expression comes from Shakespeare's play `The Merchant of
Venice' (Act 4, Scene 1). Shylock is owed money by Antonio, and
attempts to carry out an agreement which allows him to cut off a pound
of Antonio's flesh.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers
2012
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Here, one is trying to extract their pound of flesh from the other person.
TFD(idioms):
your pound of flesh
If someone demands their pound of flesh, they insist on getting
something they have a right to, even though they might not need it
and it will cause problems for the people they are getting it from.
She has appeared on breakfast television to offer support (in exchange
for heaven knows what pound of flesh from her husband).
Note: This expression comes from Shakespeare's play `The Merchant of
Venice' (Act 4, Scene 1). Shylock is owed money by Antonio, and
attempts to carry out an agreement which allows him to cut off a pound
of Antonio's flesh.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers
2012
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Here, one is trying to extract their pound of flesh from the other person.
TFD(idioms):
your pound of flesh
If someone demands their pound of flesh, they insist on getting
something they have a right to, even though they might not need it
and it will cause problems for the people they are getting it from.
She has appeared on breakfast television to offer support (in exchange
for heaven knows what pound of flesh from her husband).
Note: This expression comes from Shakespeare's play `The Merchant of
Venice' (Act 4, Scene 1). Shylock is owed money by Antonio, and
attempts to carry out an agreement which allows him to cut off a pound
of Antonio's flesh.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers
2012
answered Nov 11 at 6:43
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Here, one is trying to extract their pound of flesh from the other person.
TFD(idioms):
your pound of flesh
If someone demands their pound of flesh, they insist on getting
something they have a right to, even though they might not need it
and it will cause problems for the people they are getting it from.
She has appeared on breakfast television to offer support (in exchange
for heaven knows what pound of flesh from her husband).
Note: This expression comes from Shakespeare's play `The Merchant of
Venice' (Act 4, Scene 1). Shylock is owed money by Antonio, and
attempts to carry out an agreement which allows him to cut off a pound
of Antonio's flesh.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers
2012
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Although it doesn't describe precisely the circumstances you mention, I would suggest the other was acting in a patronising way. (US patronizing)
To assume an air of superiority towards; to treat or speak about (a
person, etc.) condescendingly, esp. with apparent indulgence or
kindness. (OED sense 6a)
It is normally a term which applies to non-monetary over-lordship, where unwelcome "advice" is given, or superior or condescending attitudes expressed
To assume or adopt an air of superiority; to act or speak condescendingly. (OED sense 6b)
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Although it doesn't describe precisely the circumstances you mention, I would suggest the other was acting in a patronising way. (US patronizing)
To assume an air of superiority towards; to treat or speak about (a
person, etc.) condescendingly, esp. with apparent indulgence or
kindness. (OED sense 6a)
It is normally a term which applies to non-monetary over-lordship, where unwelcome "advice" is given, or superior or condescending attitudes expressed
To assume or adopt an air of superiority; to act or speak condescendingly. (OED sense 6b)
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Although it doesn't describe precisely the circumstances you mention, I would suggest the other was acting in a patronising way. (US patronizing)
To assume an air of superiority towards; to treat or speak about (a
person, etc.) condescendingly, esp. with apparent indulgence or
kindness. (OED sense 6a)
It is normally a term which applies to non-monetary over-lordship, where unwelcome "advice" is given, or superior or condescending attitudes expressed
To assume or adopt an air of superiority; to act or speak condescendingly. (OED sense 6b)
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Although it doesn't describe precisely the circumstances you mention, I would suggest the other was acting in a patronising way. (US patronizing)
To assume an air of superiority towards; to treat or speak about (a
person, etc.) condescendingly, esp. with apparent indulgence or
kindness. (OED sense 6a)
It is normally a term which applies to non-monetary over-lordship, where unwelcome "advice" is given, or superior or condescending attitudes expressed
To assume or adopt an air of superiority; to act or speak condescendingly. (OED sense 6b)
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This is a step or two away from what you seem to want, and it’s considered offensive, but “Indian giver” means somebody who gives something to somebody and then takes it back or demands its return (AHD); i.e., continues to assert ownership. Also a step away, “controlling the purse strings” can be interpreted as meaning “controlling somebody’s use of something you provided” (Collins).
– Scott
Nov 14 at 6:01
Despot comes to mind, but perhaps it is bit strong for your needs.
– Phil Sweet
Dec 11 at 12:58